This weekend my friend A’Driane is getting married. When I heard the news, I was instantly happy for her even though I’ve never met her beloved, Bert. Okay, I’ve never met her in person either. But I know her. I adore her. I admire her. I respect her. A’Driane and Bert work at their relationship. They are meaningful in their actions toward each other. They take care of each other. I predict a lifetime of love and laughter. Even though I know these two crazy kids already know a lot about love and how to stay knee-deep in it, I still want to offer some wisdom on the topic. And in my experience, the best love advice comes from country music, specifically 80’s country.
Islands In The Stream-Dolly Parton and Kenny Rogers
If you go by Pandora’s rotation, 80’s country begins and ends with this song. And who can argue?
“Baby when I met you there was peace unknown.
I set out to get you with a fine tooth comb.
I was soft inside; there was something going on.”
When you’ve found the right person, your soul is calm and you finely comb your hair? And your insides got something going on. Yep. That’s love baby.
When You Say Nothing At All-Keith Whitley
Not to get all mushy, but this song makes me think of my husband. Thank God he doesn’t read my blog, or he’d be embarrassed I told you that.
“The smile on your face let’s me know that you need me.
There’s a truth in your eyes saying you’ll never leave me.
A touch of your hand says you’ll catch me if ever I fall.
Yeah, you say it best when you say nothing at all.”
Trust in what you know about your spouse and how they express their love. Also, never underestimate the power of The Look. No, not the sexy times one, the Dude, Seriously? one.
Forever And Ever, Amen-Randy Travis
Lots of love songs make promises, but this one seals it with an “Amen.” A promise that’s a prayer is what marriage means to me.
“Oh, baby! I’m gonna love you forever, forever and ever, Amen!
As long as old men sit n’ talk about the weather, as long as old women sit n’ talk about old men
If you wonder how long I’ll be faithful, I’ll be happy to tell you again.
I’m gonna love you forever and ever, forever and ever, Amen!”
Now that’s a promise! Forever and ever. The end. The only problem is I can’t hear this song without picturing Randy’s mug shot.
Meet In the Middle-Diamond Rio
If you’ve heard it once, you’ve heard it a million times: marriage requires compromise. When I’m feeling like I’m at an impasse with Michael over something, I ask myself, “Do you want to spend time with him being angry or being happy?” And then I answer myself because I have lots of voices in my head.
“I’d start walking your way.
You’d start walking mine.
We’d meet in the middle
‘Neath that old Georgia pine.
We’d gain a lot of ground
‘Cause we’d both give a little.
And their ain’t no road too long
When you meet in the middle.”
If all else fails, take a long walk and get your priorities in line. Make sure you have your cell phone so you can call for a ride home when you realize you’ve crossed state lines.
Close Enough To Perfect-Alabama
Bert, this song’s for you. I mean, it’s for you to live up to. This is how you should treat my girl.
“She kisses me each morning,
And smiles her sleepy smile
And she don’t have to say it;
I can see it in her eyes.
Don’t you worry about my woman
Or what you think she ought to be,
‘Cause she’s close enough to perfect for me.
Well sometimes she gets down and starts to cry,
But then again a lady has a right.
She’s everything I ever wanted; she’s all I’ll ever need.
She’s close enough to perfect for me.”
Did you know Alabama released an album every year in the 80’s? I have no idea what that has to do with marriage, but I’m sure you can think of some way to apply it.
So, turn up the volume and dance a little Texas two-step my friends! Here’s to marriage and to A’Driane and Bert!