Site Change

Please note: My words are moving! I’ve got my own domain name now!!!!

http://talkingismyprimaryfunction.com/

Go see me there!

Advertisements

Texas Multi Mamas Epsiode 4: “Hooters and Husbands”

Oh my.  I just think that should have been added to the title.  Because, well, oh my.

I have put off writing this recap because it makes me tense.  These ladies are telling some truth, and I feel for them having it on TV and not coming out looking that great.  I’ve always wanted to star in my own show, but episodes like this remind me that every third episode would be me explaining my previous sarcasm and my habit of talking without thinking because I just want the quick laugh.  Not to mention my bad parenting days.  Oh Lordy.

Let’s start with a parenting issue that isn’t tense  Suz and Casey have a play date at Casey’s.  In case you forgot how many kids would be involved in such an event, the number is 8.  EIGHT small children and only 2 moms and no wine.  The mind boggles.  Anyway, we see here that Casey struggles with not being able to leave her kids in someone else’s care.  Suz is worried that this is tough on Casey and wants her to let go a bit for her own sake and for the kids who will have to leave her to go to school at some point.  So Suz offers to watch all 8 kids by herself for a couple of hours.  Holy Best Friend Batman!  That is so awesome.  She handles it like a rock star, and Casey seems happy to have done it.

When Casey talks about losing one of her embryos (there were five to start) and birthing such small babies, you feel for her and know why she’s so protective.  I remember being told to keep my twins home during flu season when they were born, and I followed the instructions to the letter.  It makes you think you’re the only one who can keep them safe.

Casey's babies showing you the cute. Photo courtesy wetv.com

I can’t avoid it any longer; we must talk about the drama.  The first dramathon revolves around Tonia and her post-divorce love life.  She and Candace hit the town for some manhunting.  No wait, it’s not that.  But it is.  But it isn’t.  One thing is for certain is that Tonia wears a hot dress with cut outs and dances provocatively.  No man is snared however.

Which brings us to a girls’ night out chat that goes very wrong.  Tonia tells the ladies she has a date.  (Please note who initiates that topic.)  The ladies then pepper her with questions about whether or not she likes dating and what she’s looking to get out of it.  Tonia gets a pained look on her face, and Candace uses her best friend ESP to jump in and answer for her.  The other ladies aren’t having it.  Questions continue.  Tonia is silent.  Candace is not.

It was weird that Tonia wouldn’t answer the girls.  She didn’t even say, “I don’t want to talk about it.”  She did say her wounds were still fresh and that she’ll just have to see what happens.  Candace thought the whole thing was bullying and that Stephanie and Casey especially should not have asked questions because they are only acquaintances.  I think the ladies were trying to help, and it could have ended sooner if Tonia, a grown woman, would have ended it.

Later, Candace and Tonia are the aggressive ones.  They are out eating with Suz and Casey and the topic of how you me your spouse came up.  Again, Tonia brings up marriage/romance.  Tonia who wants to keep hers private.

Anyway, Casey is embarrassed and doesn’t want to answer.  Her face clearly says it as does her mouth.  But, the girls press on.  It turns out she met Robbie while she was working at Hooters.  She’s pissed because she did not want this on TV for her kids to see before she could talk to them about it.  She also feels like Candace and Tonia knew the answer and were just playing dumb to make her say it.

I don’t think it’s embarrassing, but I can see Casey’s point.  Lots of people have opinions on Hooters, and lots of those opinions aren’t nice.  Candace says, “That’s her history.”  Right.  So SHE gets to tell it when she wants.  Just like Tonia is in charge of what she says.  See how that played out?

Casey and Robbie, a match made in....none ya' business! Picture courtesy @caseygerwer

Here’s what I see.  Candace is very protective of Tonia.  When Candace sees Tonia in trouble, she helps.  That’s her job as best friend.  End of story.  The other ladies think they are helping Tonia talk out her thoughts.  I know we do that in my Mothers of Multiples group a lot.  Me especially.  I have no filter on my private conundrums because I know my ladies have been through the same or are at least there to listen.  It’s a trust issue, and it seems it just isn’t there for Tonia yet.

As for what happened to Casey, it felt just as mean as Candace and Tonia thought the dating questions were in the sense that Casey didn’t want to talk about it.

If you haven’t watched the episode yet, you can watch it today, Sunday, January 8 as WEtv is running a marathon starting at 11am.  Please be on the look-out for Candace and Steve hitting the dance floor with all my high school moves.  Also enjoy Steve’s fashion show as a tension breaker.

Let’s hit the comments and discuss.  Have you read the cast blogs yet?  I’m going to now.  I didn’t want them to change my review of the episode, but I’m sure the ladies add some more thoughts.  I’m enjoying following them on Twitter and reading their ‘real’ lives that some think they don’t have.  They do.  That’s why we watch.

Also, you can catch my review of Episodes One, Two, and Three if you are so inclined.

Texas Multi Mamas Episode 3 Recap: “Under The Knife”

And now we welcome a ‘real’ week of school, work and, thankfully, TV.  You know, when we’re not reading the classics or carefully tending to the garden where we grow all our family’s vegetables.

Um, that was the first and last time they used my phone. And the game was educational.

This week is another twofer.  I believe this is the last one, and we will see one episode a week from now on.  Which is good news for my kids and their chances of having me play with them on Wednesdays.

We start with Episode 3: “Under the Knife.”  It starts nice and easy with a dinner for Teryn’s birthday and includes Casey and Candace.  Candace tells us Stephanie is not invited.  (She is also not invited to the birthday party Candace has for her kids.)  One thing the ladies mention that is so true of moms, both Mothers of Multiples and women who don’t like to have as many kids as a dog has puppies, is that you have to work to make the conversations go beyond kids.  This is true with your girlfriends and your husbands.  Spontaneity just isn’t always possible anymore.

Then we move out of nice and easy and hit painful and hard.  As was mentioned on the last episode, Suz’s daughter Savannah needed another surgery on her little kidney.  Suz and Joe’s boys had the flu, so Joe had to stay home with them and miss the surgery.  Luckily, Suz’s parents were there for support, but it’s still a long day for Suz and Savannah.  That little girl is a mini Suz, and has the sweetest little voice.  It was tough to watch Suz have to hold her down for her medicine and then to see the tubes connected to her wee little arm.  Savannah was so brave and so good as they wheeled her away from her momma and into surgery.  (Let me just take this chance to say that pediatric nurses and doctors are a special breed.  God bless them for being able to do what they do with a smile on their face and love in their voice.  I can’t even imagine…)  Savannah does great in surgery and gets a rainbow Popsicle in recovery.  She also has a short pitiful cry that makes me sad even writing about it, but other than that, she is a world champion great kid about it all.  If you would like to see an update on Savannah’s progress, please check out Suz’s website.

Poor, sweet little baby girl. She is looking at ANOTHER surgery in February.

In other, less liable to make you cry surgery news, Stephanie and her husband Jerald get their male dog, Rocky, fixed.  See, Steph is all kinds of done with any new creatures in her house-babies and dogs.  Jerald wants another baby (He’d like to order a boy, please, Baby Giver People.) and feels sorry for poor Rocky losing his manly parts.  I’m with Steph on the dog thing though.  They have a male and female, so they are just asking for trouble if Rocky isn’t firing blanks.  I can’t even bring myself to write about the mess a female dog in heat makes.  Just no.

Also just no?  Taking my kids bowling without the aid of my spouse and/or beer.  Yet, that is exactly what dear Teryn does to help Candace and her triplets celebrate their 4th birthday.  Teryn’s boys just run amuck and make her have panic-face.  Damn it!  Why didn’t she bring in her trusty M&M’s to bribe them??!?!?  Look, if it works for you, do it.  Parental bribery happens.  Don’t act like it isn’t somewhat normal.  Now, I do love Candace’s philosophy of putting in the work at home to help with public behavior, but sometimes that just doesn’t happen.  I’m the first to admit that consistency is a toughy for me but also would save me a lot of heartache.  I’m blaming it on my ADD.

Tonia continues to hurt my head with her love life.  She, and Candace of course, head to the Dallas Bridal show.  Tonia is a speaker and is very excited to promote her business but also nervous without her husband there to support her and do manual labor.  My confusion is that she talks about this part of her life on camera, but as we will see in Episode 4, it seems the ladies who are not her besties can’t ask her questions about it.  I understand she wants her exact reasons for divorce kept private.  That is very fair.  I just don’t understand when people are allowed to talk to her about her love life in general and how she’s feeling.  It’s possible that the wound is still so raw that even she isn’t sure.

And finally, we get more sex talk with Teryn’s husband Ryan panting for a private swim suit show and a separate girls’ night out discussion on Stephanie’s current birth control of not letting Jerald even look at her 10 days of the month.  Teens, please don’t try this yourself.  The sexy talk amongst the girls leads to them sexting their spouses and at least three or four of the husbands getting lucky.  TMI for everyone!

This lands us smack dab at the start of Episode 4: “Husbands and Hooters.”   It’s a pretty full episode, so I’m going to make it a separate post again.  Also, I need to get to bed.  And I’m out of good word thingys.  So, tune in tomorrow for my next recap!  Until then, tell me, do you have that one friend who is a cutey that you love to bug about sex because it makes her blush, a-la Teryn?  I do, and she probably has to pray for me after every dinner we have.  Any other thoughts?  Spill it!

Texas Multi Mamas Episode 2: “Weekend in Paris”

Howdy!

Get it? A review about a show from Texas?

Anyway…..

I finally got to see the second episode of Texas Multi Mamas.  If you missed my review of episode one or just don’t know what I’m talking about, you could check out my first review. There are also links to the episodes online in case you’d like to watch.

I am on a cattiness and ‘all-dolled-up mommies who go out too much’ watch.  I enjoy reading the feedback about my blog and the show, but anyone who was turned off by it seemed to complain about those two things.  Two things I really didn’t see much of on the first episode.  I also read some complaints about the commercials  making the show look like it was trying to compete with trashy shows (which I love) like the Real Housewives.  While that may be true, I think that’s just what they thought they had to do to get viewers.  Duh.

The second episode began with the ladies having some spa time.  It was the first gathering after Stephanie attempted to quell any drama created by her Candace feud.  It was a bit tense but not at all like those crazy Beverly Hills mommas do it.  As happens with moms, the ladies began talking about leaving the kids with the husbands.  I’m so glad none of them said the fathers of their children were ‘babysitting’ them.  Just no.  Let’s add that kind of talk to our list of no-no’s, shall we?

Not all dad's would do this. By the way, I'd be fine with this if I got out of one grocery shopping trip. Photo courtesy failblog.org

Stephanie noted that during this husband talk Tonia, currently divorced, was quiet and withdrawn.  That must be so very hard.  The married friends have a right and like to talk about married life, but it is also important to know the crowd you are with and be kind to them.  Tonia broke my heart when she said, “I never wanted to be divorced.”  However, after Stephanie tried to include her, she said in an interview, “Stephanie doesn’t know me or know how I feel.” Nice.  Stephanie has been divorced too.  Also?  If you want her to know how you feel?  Tell her.  She’s opened the door to that conversation.

I’m just going to casually mention the discussion at spa day about Stephanie getting new boobs.  Listen, this happens a lot in Texas and for Mothers of Multiples.  I could have done without her giving the, “Everything’s Bigger in Texas!” line.  That’s true; even our politicians are bigger a**es than any other state’s.  (I’m looking at you Rick Perry.)

In more Candace and Stephanie news, they arranged the show made them have a play date at Candace’s house.  Steph went in with a semi-open mind, which is all I think we can ask of her.  Of note during this scene was the women’s apparel, pants and t-shirts.  Normal, non-fancy-pants stuff.  Steph gets annoyed by Candace being a topper.  (That friend who tells a story about the topic you just told but bigger and better.)  Steph also was annoyed that Candace cared when Stephanie’s kid got hit in the face by a foot.  How dare she?!?!

Little Miss Sunshine Stephanie got to tell the ladies about her upcoming in-laws visit over drinks.  She also got to poo poo Candace’s advice to just kill her mother-in-law with kindness.  Not bad advice for a woman who has kindness in her…..you know like…well, not Stephanie I guess.  Stephanie on the other hand said, “That was a really pretty answer honey.”  Methinks she is treating Candace like her mother-in-law is treating her.  No matter what she does, it’s wrong.

Thankfully, we were treated to a World Wildlife Fund commercial about how we’re slaughtering tigers left and right to move away from anything uncomfortable……(Another commercial break at some point was the one with the family trying to mail away the creepy clown.  Makes me jump every time.  Stupid clown.)

Photo courtesy Satan.

Teryn, you are a brave girl!  Not just for doing what it takes to feel good about yourself but for letting the world see your consultation and your well-earned mommy pouch.  Let me just tell you that mine looks like that, and I only have twins.

Teryn’s tummy tuck procedure brought us her first story and a closer look at her husband, Ryan.  They were both worried about each other.  I laughed when Ryan asked if her ‘knockers’ were going to be pulled down too far.  A very legitimate husband concern.  Teryn cried to think of the worry an elective surgery was putting on her parents.  Her dad’s face looked just like my dad’s when I was last in the hospital.  Tough for a daddy’s girl to see.  Ryan was very choked up as they wheeled her in for surgery, and he told us how he couldn’t live without her.  Good stuff and very sincere.  Teryn makes it through and begins her recovery.  Ryan heads up the household and cleans her drain tubes.  It is a sweaty position he is now in, and he’s ready to be done.

Meanwhile, we see Stephanie and husband Jerald packing and then heading to Paris, Texas.  (Hence the episode’s title.)  Again, please know that not all Texans pack six guns for a family visit, though it’s something some of us should probably consider.  I thought it was cute when Jerald told Steph that he loved her under the fake Eiffel Tower (complete with red cowboy hat of ridiculousness).  It was also sweet later in the show when they took some time together to shoot those guns, and it turned into a date with each person saying the other was hot while armed.  However, Stephanie being Stephanie, she got pretty pissed off later when everyone ordered dinner while she was in the restroom and took it out on Jerald by calling him fat for shoving a school of fried fish in his face.

We had two chances to see how the couples get alone time while still being good parents.  Candace and Steve got a date night thanks to Candace’s mother being able to watch the kids, while Casey and Robbie begged the children to go to sleep and ate dinner  and hit the hot tub after.  Steve gave Candace a framed poem and pretty necklace, while Robbie sprayed whipped cream on Casey in a funny way.  I loved how they turned strawberries and whipped cream silly.  Both couples seemed happy and in sync.  I’m sure they have to work at it, but it seems important to stay a good couple to survive multiples.

Casey, Robbie, and quads of cuteness. Congrats mom and Dad, you did not embarrass your kids in the hot tub scene. Photo courtesy WEtv.com

Casey seems like me.  She’s a bit anxious and thinks controlling things will calm her.  Her husband keeps her looking at the lighter side as mine does.  Her monitor addiction is hilarious.  Casey, momma, you are not alone.

We get a short glimpse of Tonia lamenting that the guy from the first episode tried to ask her out again via text.  Sorry dude, Steve already warned Tonia about you.  You’re done.  Also, Tonia can’t stop saying the ‘r’ word.  Please, get her some help.

We also got to see Suz break it to her little Savi that she was about to have the 6th surgery of her short life.  Gut-wrenching.  Suz explains how this is the hardest part of being a parent, and I feel for her.  Savi says, “Surgery agian? But I don’t wanna have surgery!”  I am so proud of Suz for not losing it at that.  Too much.  This story will complete on the next episode, and I don’t know how I’m going to be able to see them wheel that little girl in for surgery.

And with that we wait until next Tuesday for more episodes.  What did you think?  Are these moms going out too much?  Too dressed up?  I don’t think so, but I’m a Texan; maybe I’m biased.  Did I leave anything out? (Ha! That’s funny.  I’m never telling stories that are too short.)  I’d love comments, especially from Moms of Multiples.  A special thanks to all who shared my link to the last review.  I loved getting so many readers!

My Take On Texas Multi Mamas

You know what I need? Another reality TV show!  And one that I could have been in no less.

The show in question is called Texas Multi Mamas, and it centers on 6 Dallas-area moms who are all friends and are all Mothers of Multiples.  (Why did I capitalize that?  Because they carried more than one baby in their uteri.  Try it some time.  It’s no walk in the park.)  It airs on WE tv on Tuesdays at 8 and 9c.  If you missed the first 2 episodes, you can watch them here.

First, let’s meet the ladies.  They are all very thin and none seem to be medicated which is a bit different from my experience.  Maybe they just don’t eat fast food for lunch as much as they can and don’t blab all over the internet about their mental health.  Weird.

Candace–42, Mom to 4 year-old triplets, married to Steve, describes herself as wanting to be the cool mom and be who she was before she had kids (Hmmm, sounds like trouble but you never know!  Maybe she can do it.)

Stephanie–26, Mom to 2 year-old twins and a son from a previous marriage, married to Jerald, she already has tension with Candace and thereby the rest of the group

Teryn–35, Mom to 3 year-old triplets and an older daughter, married to Ryan, not seen much in this episode though I loved it when she used her foot to keep a triplet from escaping the store they were in

Casey–30, Mom to 4 year-old quads (That’s 4 kids you guys!), married to Robbie, honest about being overwhelmed every day but seems to do great, says she likes control but isn’t a control freak

Suzi–Mom to quads, married to Joe, close friends with Casey, decides to laugh at her chaos instead of get stressed by it, soft-spoken but not meek

Tonia–33, Mom to 4 year-old twins, divorced, very close friends with Candace, runs a professional organizing company

Oh my! The cute! It hurts! Photo courtesy of WeTV.

Now, let’s get on to Episode 1, “Mama Drama” which tried to play up the tension between Stephanie and Candace.  They’ve had words.  And mean texts.  Mostly from Stephanie and containing foul language and general abrasiveness.  And now all the other ladies are afraid that Stephanie is willing to ‘throw anyone under the bus’ to get what she wants.  (For the love of the beautiful English language can we be done with that phrase?  Pretty please?)  When Suz ( I can call her that because I know friends of her friends.) has lunch with Stephanie and tells her this, Steph gets very upset.  She honestly is sad that the other moms have bad feelings about her.  Suzi handled it so well and was very gracious with the way she brought it up.  It was not done with the intent to make things more tense or dramatic.  I really like her and could learn a thing or two about diplomacy from her.

We see a lot of Stephanie, Candace, and Tonia in this episode with some great interviews with Casey and Suz.

For Stephanie, we see her on a date with her husband talking about their daughters’ birthday party and his mother.  Unfortunately, Stephanie and her mother-in-law do not see eye to eye.  Jerald has chosen to pretend nothing is wrong for fear of both women getting stabby.  At the actual birthday party, the two women don’t talk much, and the mother-in-law pulls a classic evil move.  She asks for a picture of her family and leaves out Stephanie and her older son.  Very classy.  Steph complains about it, but is generally not too dramatic.   I really liked how Stephanie and Jerald had fun and were happy for their girls having fun.  The party was nice and normal and just very real.

We see Candace offering to help Tonia in the man department by setting up a meeting with a matchmaker, though none of the other ladies thinks this is a great idea.  Thankfully, the matchmaker is a pretty nice, even-keeled lady unlike that wacko on Bravo.  Tonia is pretty neurotic (I’ve seen her in person) but is obviously very smart and driven.  However, she lost me totally when she said she was ‘retarded’ about dating.  Woman, we do not use that word that way!  Not cool.

While waiting for the matchmaker to perform a miracle, Tonia goes on a date set up by another friend.  She tells us that she’s got a weird thing about nice teeth.  Then she says some things about blah, blah, blah, personality, nice to me, but mostly the teeth need to be nice.  The date is not too awkward, and they seem to be having fun.  Until Tonia tells him he has to meet her friend Candace for inspection.  Good-bye confidence!

After the date, Tonia goes to Candace’s for a play date.  That play date looked nice.  Candace’s husband played with the kids while they dished about the date.  (He also offered some great advice about a man who asks you for a date via text message.  He warned that you need to be prepared to be broken up with via text by a guy like that.)  My play dates with other Moms of Multiples are more ‘active’.  Shelly and I used to meet at the mall play place (germ town), and the conversations were like this, “Do you have Gavin?” “No.  Have you seen Alex? I think he may be bleeding…If it’s not him, it’s the other one.”  Then we corral them in the food court and play the my-kids-have-a-new-bad-habit game.  It’s informative, and nobody wins.

For the high point, all the ladies meet at a place called Zephyr’s for drinks on the patio (I’m so jealous.) and some interaction between our feuding ladies Stephanie and Candace.  Stephanie explains to the whole group that she never said anything about throwing anyone under the bus because she knows that phrase is stupid.  No, she says that they should always come to her in the future if they have any questions about her or what she feels.  Stephanie does not talk directly to Candace, the person she knows is responsible for the comment, but instead just makes a calm statment.  Candace stays silent which means no big fights or cattyness.

I liked the show and the ladies.  Stephanie is a little tightly wound but harmless.  I’m bummed we didn’t see more of their day-to-day life with the kids because it’s nice to see how someone else handles it.  The kids are older but still hard to handle!  Trust me, I know this.  If you go to the web site and look at their pictures, there are some parenting tips from them there.  Not embarrassed by them as a mom, a woman or a Texan.  They seem normal which may doom the show.

What do you think?  Do you want me to continue reviewing the show?  Who did you like?  What would you like to see?  If you have any observations or questions or answers, please make them in the comments!  After this, see my review of episode 2.